Self love. We hear the words thrown round all the time, but what does it really mean to love oneself?
We’re all a little guilty when it comes to self-love, and I don’t just mean working out or watching what you eat (after all, we all like a slice of pizza or heart shaped waffle every now and then, right?) It turns out there’s a lot more to self-love than just pampering ourselves or doing what makes us happy.
As RuPaul (QUEEN) says, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”. As an avid fan of Drag Race, the quote started to make me think. Do I love myself? What exactly is self-love? How can I achieve it? If you’re wondering the same, here’s a list to help you understand a little more.
- Speak highly of yourself, after all no one knows you as well as you know yourself. Speak about yourself as if you were your own best friend.
- Give yourself permission to let go, like toxic relationships or friendships, it’s just temporary. It won’t hurt forever, and you’ll feel so much better about yourself for letting go.
- Express yourself fearlessly, stand up for yourself and don’t let other people drag you down.
- Stand firmly on your boundaries, say NO when you need to, and make sure you create space for joy and love in your life. You’ll love yourself more when you set limits that could potentially harm you mentally or physically.
- Be grateful for who you are and what you have, and stop comparing yourself to others. Instead, compare yourself to you from last year or from a decade ago. Ask yourself what you have achieved and learned.
- Accept what you cannot change. You may be able to change your hair colour, your make up, but at the end of the day, you are you. And that is pretty amazing.
- Don’t worry about what others may think of you, this will give you a clearer peace of mind and just remember, you can’t please everyone.
- Follow your intuition, whether it’s about someone or something, sometimes you can feel unsure. Ask yourself questions and answer them with the first thing that pops into your head. Nine times out of ten, your instincts are correct.
- If it doesn’t feel good for you, don’t do it. Apply this to all aspects of your life. Make yourself priority number one always.
- Believe in yourself and your dreams. Create a plan with measurable objectives, a support team and a timeline. Make your dreams your reality.
- Don’t participate in drama or negativity, free yourself from toxic relationships and unhealthy life roles. Mean what you say, and say what you mean.